Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts

March 9, 2011

Accept it, Take Hold of it & Follow it.

"Toward a Psychology of Being" - Maslow on the Intrinsic Conscience 

This is the “intrinsic conscience”. This is based upon the unconscious and preconscious perception of our own nature, of our own destiny, or own capacities, of our own “call” in life. It insists that we be true to our inner nature and that we do not deny it out of weakness or for advantage or for any other reason.

 He who denies his talent; the born painter who sells stockings instead, the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the man who sees the truth and keeps his mouth shut, the coward who gives up his manliness- all these people perceive in a deep way that they have done wrong to themselves and despise themselves for it.

 Out of this self-punishment may come only neurosis, but there may equally well come renewed courage, righteous indignation, increased self-respect, because of thereafter doing the right thing. In a word, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict.

-          Abraham H. Maslow

Toward a Psychology of Being: Second Edition
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Once you discover your nature, your identity, your destiny, your potential- accept it, take hold of it and follow it.
Do not hurt yourself- do not deny yourself of who you are, what you are capable of doing. Often it seems easier to take the other path, mold yourself into what society may expect from you. Be strong. 

Do not allow yourself to be the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the woman who values truth but lives in lies, the artist who sits typing numbers at a desk. Sometimes we may need to take on these roles to get where we are going- but do not let them become you. Hold fast to your dreams and continue to reach for them. Again, it may seem easier to give up and give in but that would be doing wrong to yourself. 

Things in life are not always easy, but as Maslow suggests, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict. Make mistakes, but don't forever dwell on them... pick up the pieces, learn your lesson and move on. You will forever be a better person from each mistake you make and lesson you learn. 

Pursue your happiness. Keep in mind that your emotions are there to guide you, negative emotions often indicate you're pursuing the wrong thing/on the wrong path. Positive emotions often work as reinforcement; you're doing the right thing and thus it feels good. Listen to those feelings. 

Respect yourself, respect who you are and what you wish to do. 
Do not deny yourself of your own nature. 

Be you. 


January 15, 2011

Smiles That Make You Happy




What do smiles really mean? The French neurologist Guillaume Duchenne mapped 100 facial muscles in 1862. In the course of that work, he had something to say about smiling. He pointed out that false, or even half-hearted, smiles involved only muscles of the mouth. But "the sweet emotions of the soul," he said, activate the pars lateralis muscle around the eyes.

Since then, physiologists have talked about the Duchenne marker in a smile. It's a slight crinkling of crows-feet and a droop in the eyelid toward the temples -- along with a lift of the cheeks and the corners of the mouth. You know the sign. You recognize true delight in a friend's face.
Now psychologist

Paul Ekman

has gone back to the smile and found out something very important about it. The Duchenne smile, it seems, is accompanied by increased activity in the left prefrontal cortex -- known to be the seat of positive emotions.
The most fascinating thing Ekman found is: You can work it in reverse. If you put on a Duchenne smile, you can activate your pleasure centers. You can literally make yourself happy by smiling. But not completely so. A spontaneous smile activates even more reactions than you can access with a voluntary smile.
So it's no surprise that we're put off by a false smile. Once we know the real thing, the fake becomes offensive. I've always had particular trouble with the classic fixed smile of a ballerina -- for just that reason. There's no Duchenne marker, and it chills me.
Ekman has shown us something we've suspected for a long time. It is that we create our own realities. You cannot fake happiness, but you can create it within yourself. And when you do, you deeply touch those around you. Another Frenchman, the 17th-century moralist La Rochefoucauld, had the idea. He wrote,
To win that wonder of the world,
A smile from her bright eyes,
I fought my King, and would have hurled
The gods out of their skies.

[Original article can be found at: http://www.uh.edu/engines/epi883.htm]