Showing posts with label mindandbody. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mindandbody. Show all posts

May 15, 2011

Just Be.

All the Buddhas of all the ages have been telling you a very simple fact: Be - don’t try to become. Within these two words, be and becoming, your whole life is contained. Being is enlightenment, becoming is ignorance.

- Osho

April 18, 2011

Finding Peace

· Make optimism your reality. Look for the bright side in a dark situation.

“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” - Albus Dumbledore

   ·  Everyone makes mistakes. We’re human. Learn from them and move forward. The triumphs of your future await you.

·    Always strive towards a better you. Use your time for improvement and don’t waste precious moments on complaints and criticism (of yourself and others).

·    Find your inner peace. Commit yourself to having the strength and determination to hold onto it, no matter what the circumstances.

·    Believe that the whole world is on your side… and it will be.

·    Be the best possible you.
Be true to you. 

“The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.” 
- Marcus Aurelius. 

April 1, 2011

What Do You Believe?

There has been such a lovely response to the "I Believe" post that I was hoping you guys would share what you believe and we could create our own list.

These are just some of the inspiring emails & comments I've received since that post:

I believe...
that the person you have to have the most faith in is yourself.

I believe...

life is what you make of it.

I believe...
 that every day is what you make of it and your thoughts are the most powerful aspect of your being.

I believe...
 that some people come into your life to realize how shitty the ones already there are.

I believe...
when you think life gets too hard to go on, you can always muster up enough courage to keep going.

I believe...
that life isn't what it seems, it's more.

I believe...
that lies are quick, but the truth has real endurance.


"I believe in everything until it's disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it's in your mind. Who's to say that dreams and nightmares aren't as real as the here and now?"
John Lennon

Share what you believe with the rest of us in the comments section and lets create our own "I Believe" list together.

March 29, 2011

A Season

"Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed."

March 9, 2011

Accept it, Take Hold of it & Follow it.

"Toward a Psychology of Being" - Maslow on the Intrinsic Conscience 

This is the “intrinsic conscience”. This is based upon the unconscious and preconscious perception of our own nature, of our own destiny, or own capacities, of our own “call” in life. It insists that we be true to our inner nature and that we do not deny it out of weakness or for advantage or for any other reason.

 He who denies his talent; the born painter who sells stockings instead, the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the man who sees the truth and keeps his mouth shut, the coward who gives up his manliness- all these people perceive in a deep way that they have done wrong to themselves and despise themselves for it.

 Out of this self-punishment may come only neurosis, but there may equally well come renewed courage, righteous indignation, increased self-respect, because of thereafter doing the right thing. In a word, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict.

-          Abraham H. Maslow

Toward a Psychology of Being: Second Edition

Once you discover your nature, your identity, your destiny, your potential- accept it, take hold of it and follow it.
Do not hurt yourself- do not deny yourself of who you are, what you are capable of doing. Often it seems easier to take the other path, mold yourself into what society may expect from you. Be strong. 

Do not allow yourself to be the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the woman who values truth but lives in lies, the artist who sits typing numbers at a desk. Sometimes we may need to take on these roles to get where we are going- but do not let them become you. Hold fast to your dreams and continue to reach for them. Again, it may seem easier to give up and give in but that would be doing wrong to yourself. 

Things in life are not always easy, but as Maslow suggests, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict. Make mistakes, but don't forever dwell on them... pick up the pieces, learn your lesson and move on. You will forever be a better person from each mistake you make and lesson you learn. 

Pursue your happiness. Keep in mind that your emotions are there to guide you, negative emotions often indicate you're pursuing the wrong thing/on the wrong path. Positive emotions often work as reinforcement; you're doing the right thing and thus it feels good. Listen to those feelings. 

Respect yourself, respect who you are and what you wish to do. 
Do not deny yourself of your own nature. 

Be you. 

March 2, 2011

Be Authentic

Jen from recently wrote a wonderful article How to Live a Long & Happy Life on her blog and one of her points really spoke to me so I wanted to share it here with you guys. 

Be Authentic

One of my mottos in life is the Wayne Dyer quote “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” This is one of the hardest things to accept in life, because it makes us take responsibility for the external things that aren’t working for us. The truth is, if love/relationships has never gone so well, you aren't attracting the wrong people because the universe is conspiring against you, you’re attracting the wrong people because something in you attracts them. Rather than focusing on finding better mates (external) work on identifying what’s repressed/hurting/etc. in you that could be manifesting itself as romantic partners. I bet you a million dollars that when you address the stuff inside, the stuff on the outside will start to match.
This has another powerful ramification: when you start acting authentically, there is an obvious fear that you will be rejected/thrown under a bus/left for dead in the world, but there’s also the ability to work through these fears like never before. 
The more authentically I act, the more afraid I am at first, but I’m always able to tell myself that if ________ rejects me (the person, the job, the whatever) then the truth is that they just aren’t a match for me – because I’m being myself. 
That’s all I can do, in the long run. Be a person I’m proud of and be true and authentic to that person.
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”    - Coco Chanel

March 1, 2011

Jessica's "Daily Affirmation"

We should all learn something from this amazing little girl : )

“Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.”

-Kahlil Gibran

(Thank you Leah for submitting this video)

February 12, 2011

Love Yourself

You accept the love you think you deserve.

Sometimes, the truth may be that you do deserve better… you just haven’t realized it yet.

I don’t mean that you deserve better because you’re a better person than someone else or even that they aren’t the right person for you.

What I mean is people will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. If you don’t truly love yourself others will find it difficult to love you too.

Focus on finding it within yourself to accept the real you and embrace your truth.

Love yourself and others will follow. With love comes respect and once you respect yourself, you will find that you will not tolerate disrespect from others. You will expect and receive nothing but the treatment that you do deserve.

Love yourself and your environment will change; relationships will be built and strengthen.

There is an eternal happiness out there, waiting for you to find it and once you do,

      Your world will blossom. 

February 1, 2011

8 Ways to Conquer Stress

Submitted by Dan from (big thanks for the awesome article!
1. Find out what is causing the stress and work on fixing it- The best thing to do when stressed is figuring out what is causing it. If it is something that is fixable, work on fixing or improving the situation. In other words, if you are stressed about a test or a report that must be done, then don’t waste your time thinking about it. Study or work on it so that it can be completed on time. The quality/effectiveness of the work done prior to your due date reflect highly on the quality of the final product (no matter what the case is).
2. Take things one step a time- When someone is stressed, many times it is because they may have too much to do at once. Instead of going over your head and worrying about everything, take some time and write a list. Make sure the list is moderately detailed so that you have to know exactly what you have to do without wasting additional time toward the end. Once you have made a list, go from the first item to the last in that order. Do not skip around or think about the other items listed.
3. Make sure to have time for you- Many people are stressed because they devote all of their time to other causes. Whether it is school, work, family, or other obligations, you must make sure to remember who is most important. YOU! Try to give yourself a certain amount of time each day to do something you enjoy. This shouldn’t seem abstract because we must do what makes us happy. If you enjoy singing, spend 30 minutes a day singing. If you like to dance, take some time out to do that. It is healthy and will allow you to relieve built up stress and emotions.
4. Play sports- Many people take their emotions out when working out and playing sports. It is healthy physically and mentally to spend some time each day playing sports or doing some kind of physical exercise. Many times, recreational team sports allow you to meet new people, socialize, and forget the stress while playing.
5. Listen to slow music- When we are stressed, often life around us seems to be moving way too fast. Whatever your choice in music is, try to lie down somewhere, take a walk, or step into a bath and put on some slow music. Even if you do it for fifteen to thirty minutes a day, you will feel relieved and ready to take on the rest of your day. Your mind and body will thank you for this.
6. Talk to someone- If something is stressing you out, especially if you believe you cannot handle it, talk to someone. Many times a friends or family member’s insight on a situation will provide you with a clear path. Though sometimes they may be wrong, always take what others say into consideration. The people closest to us are there to help and, even though sometimes it won’t seem like it, they support you.
7. Cook something (or learn how to)- Personally, I find that cooking is a relaxing and fun experience. Grab some cookbooks or find some recipes online, turn on some relaxing music in your kitchen, and start chopping. As soon as you know it, there is an aroma of smells in your kitchen, you’re relaxed, and most likely eating something healthier than you would have if you went out.
8. Find yourself- many times, people are stressed because they are confused as to what or who they want to be in life. That is fine and a completely natural feeling. There are certain things you must do whilst looking to find yourself. Step out of your comfort zone and try new things. Make friends with new people. If possible, travel (and by travel I mean somewhere at least six hours away by plane). Learn new things and open your mind to new cultures, foods, and religions. Don’t analyze anything too much, but make sure to keep your mind rolling (not of stressful thoughts). Find what makes you happy.
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January 20, 2011

Life & The Last Lecture

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

- Randy Pausch

The Last Lecture (revised) by Randy Pausch: A video really worth watching.

January 17, 2011

The Pursuit of Happiness: 15 Lessons to Keep in Mind

happy woman facing the sun

1. The only person that can ever truly make you happy is yourself. Stop depending on everyone else.
2. People lie, stuff happens. Don’t take it too personally.

3. Want people to think you’re amazing? Start believing you are, and then they will too.

4. Smiling is the ultimate anti-depressant. Smile and laugh out loud, it doesn’t look stupid, I promise. 

5. The world is never just black and white, right or wrong, one way or another. Try and see things from as many points of view as possible. 

6. "Let everything happen to you
Beauty and terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final"
Rainer Maria Rilke

7. Have empathy.

8. Gossip, problems of the past, events you cannot control, negative thoughts and negative people; time spent on these is time poorly wasted. 

9. When you're jealous or find yourself filled with hate for someone/something, stop. The only person its hurting is you.

10. Although the newest, most expensive material things may make you feel as if you’re a better person, they won’t hold you at night or listen to you when you need it. Make sure your priorities make sense.

11. Step outside your comfort zone- it’s when you’ll really feel alive.

12. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, the people who really matter, don’t mind

13. Let your emotions out sometimes, humans have them for a reason.

14. Celebrate the things you have. Think only positively of the things you don’t (but would like to have) and they too will come.

15. Love unconditionally ♥.

January 15, 2011

Smiles That Make You Happy

What do smiles really mean? The French neurologist Guillaume Duchenne mapped 100 facial muscles in 1862. In the course of that work, he had something to say about smiling. He pointed out that false, or even half-hearted, smiles involved only muscles of the mouth. But "the sweet emotions of the soul," he said, activate the pars lateralis muscle around the eyes.

Since then, physiologists have talked about the Duchenne marker in a smile. It's a slight crinkling of crows-feet and a droop in the eyelid toward the temples -- along with a lift of the cheeks and the corners of the mouth. You know the sign. You recognize true delight in a friend's face.
Now psychologist

Paul Ekman

has gone back to the smile and found out something very important about it. The Duchenne smile, it seems, is accompanied by increased activity in the left prefrontal cortex -- known to be the seat of positive emotions.
The most fascinating thing Ekman found is: You can work it in reverse. If you put on a Duchenne smile, you can activate your pleasure centers. You can literally make yourself happy by smiling. But not completely so. A spontaneous smile activates even more reactions than you can access with a voluntary smile.
So it's no surprise that we're put off by a false smile. Once we know the real thing, the fake becomes offensive. I've always had particular trouble with the classic fixed smile of a ballerina -- for just that reason. There's no Duchenne marker, and it chills me.
Ekman has shown us something we've suspected for a long time. It is that we create our own realities. You cannot fake happiness, but you can create it within yourself. And when you do, you deeply touch those around you. Another Frenchman, the 17th-century moralist La Rochefoucauld, had the idea. He wrote,
To win that wonder of the world,
A smile from her bright eyes,
I fought my King, and would have hurled
The gods out of their skies.

[Original article can be found at:]