Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

May 18, 2011


[Submitted by Jess. Visit her at]

The world around us is consistently changing. It experiences death but then creates life in a matter of seconds. There is constant growth and discovery and the same things never happen twice. Why, then, does it amaze me every time my own life changes? It could be because many times I don't control the change. Yet I have come to see that the greatest amazement comes from the results of my own decisions.

Friends move away, family members pass, and we go on. But the minute we decide something that ends in a way we didn't expect, all is lost. The familiarity we had is no longer- our world slowly begins to crumble and then it all collapses. There is still hope, somewhere, but we can't find it. There is air to be breathed, places to be discovered and people to meet, yet we are incapable of seeing and feeling anything outside the physical pain this one, single decision has caused. 

It sucks. 

So what do you do? Do you stop making decisions and hope the world can make them for you? Do you shut yourself out completely and close off to everyone and everything that makes this world good? Maybe you continue with the world, but you become so incredibly cynical towards anything related to this decision that you are unbearable to be around.


You cry. You scream, you yell, you throw something (preferably not at someone). You talk to yourself because "no one understands you." You listen to sad songs so that you can cry some more. You fall to your knees and pray with all your might. And then, you pick yourself up. You wonder around aimlessly for a while, but you figure it out. Maybe you write about it, or paint, sing, dance, yodel, ANYTHING. 

You breathe.

You embrace the next opportunity you have to make a decision because not everyone in this world has the luxury of options. You chose, whatever it is your heart tells you to. And when you pick the wrong one... again... you start from the top. 

April 5, 2011

March 29, 2011

A Season

"Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed."

March 2, 2011

Be Authentic

Jen from recently wrote a wonderful article How to Live a Long & Happy Life on her blog and one of her points really spoke to me so I wanted to share it here with you guys. 

Be Authentic

One of my mottos in life is the Wayne Dyer quote “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” This is one of the hardest things to accept in life, because it makes us take responsibility for the external things that aren’t working for us. The truth is, if love/relationships has never gone so well, you aren't attracting the wrong people because the universe is conspiring against you, you’re attracting the wrong people because something in you attracts them. Rather than focusing on finding better mates (external) work on identifying what’s repressed/hurting/etc. in you that could be manifesting itself as romantic partners. I bet you a million dollars that when you address the stuff inside, the stuff on the outside will start to match.
This has another powerful ramification: when you start acting authentically, there is an obvious fear that you will be rejected/thrown under a bus/left for dead in the world, but there’s also the ability to work through these fears like never before. 
The more authentically I act, the more afraid I am at first, but I’m always able to tell myself that if ________ rejects me (the person, the job, the whatever) then the truth is that they just aren’t a match for me – because I’m being myself. 
That’s all I can do, in the long run. Be a person I’m proud of and be true and authentic to that person.
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”    - Coco Chanel

January 20, 2011

Life & The Last Lecture

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

- Randy Pausch

The Last Lecture (revised) by Randy Pausch: A video really worth watching.

January 17, 2011

The Pursuit of Happiness: 15 Lessons to Keep in Mind

happy woman facing the sun

1. The only person that can ever truly make you happy is yourself. Stop depending on everyone else.
2. People lie, stuff happens. Don’t take it too personally.

3. Want people to think you’re amazing? Start believing you are, and then they will too.

4. Smiling is the ultimate anti-depressant. Smile and laugh out loud, it doesn’t look stupid, I promise. 

5. The world is never just black and white, right or wrong, one way or another. Try and see things from as many points of view as possible. 

6. "Let everything happen to you
Beauty and terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final"
Rainer Maria Rilke

7. Have empathy.

8. Gossip, problems of the past, events you cannot control, negative thoughts and negative people; time spent on these is time poorly wasted. 

9. When you're jealous or find yourself filled with hate for someone/something, stop. The only person its hurting is you.

10. Although the newest, most expensive material things may make you feel as if you’re a better person, they won’t hold you at night or listen to you when you need it. Make sure your priorities make sense.

11. Step outside your comfort zone- it’s when you’ll really feel alive.

12. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, the people who really matter, don’t mind

13. Let your emotions out sometimes, humans have them for a reason.

14. Celebrate the things you have. Think only positively of the things you don’t (but would like to have) and they too will come.

15. Love unconditionally ♥.