Showing posts with label be yourself. Show all posts
Showing posts with label be yourself. Show all posts

May 5, 2012

Wild Child

This weeks submissions are all about being free and being at ease with yourself. 
Try it, even if just for today. 

Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.
Winston Churchill
Submitted by Grace Elizabeth Marrero

March 9, 2011

Accept it, Take Hold of it & Follow it.

"Toward a Psychology of Being" - Maslow on the Intrinsic Conscience 

This is the “intrinsic conscience”. This is based upon the unconscious and preconscious perception of our own nature, of our own destiny, or own capacities, of our own “call” in life. It insists that we be true to our inner nature and that we do not deny it out of weakness or for advantage or for any other reason.

 He who denies his talent; the born painter who sells stockings instead, the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the man who sees the truth and keeps his mouth shut, the coward who gives up his manliness- all these people perceive in a deep way that they have done wrong to themselves and despise themselves for it.

 Out of this self-punishment may come only neurosis, but there may equally well come renewed courage, righteous indignation, increased self-respect, because of thereafter doing the right thing. In a word, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict.

-          Abraham H. Maslow

Toward a Psychology of Being: Second Edition

Once you discover your nature, your identity, your destiny, your potential- accept it, take hold of it and follow it.
Do not hurt yourself- do not deny yourself of who you are, what you are capable of doing. Often it seems easier to take the other path, mold yourself into what society may expect from you. Be strong. 

Do not allow yourself to be the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the woman who values truth but lives in lies, the artist who sits typing numbers at a desk. Sometimes we may need to take on these roles to get where we are going- but do not let them become you. Hold fast to your dreams and continue to reach for them. Again, it may seem easier to give up and give in but that would be doing wrong to yourself. 

Things in life are not always easy, but as Maslow suggests, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict. Make mistakes, but don't forever dwell on them... pick up the pieces, learn your lesson and move on. You will forever be a better person from each mistake you make and lesson you learn. 

Pursue your happiness. Keep in mind that your emotions are there to guide you, negative emotions often indicate you're pursuing the wrong thing/on the wrong path. Positive emotions often work as reinforcement; you're doing the right thing and thus it feels good. Listen to those feelings. 

Respect yourself, respect who you are and what you wish to do. 
Do not deny yourself of your own nature. 

Be you. 

March 2, 2011

Be Authentic

Jen from recently wrote a wonderful article How to Live a Long & Happy Life on her blog and one of her points really spoke to me so I wanted to share it here with you guys. 

Be Authentic

One of my mottos in life is the Wayne Dyer quote “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” This is one of the hardest things to accept in life, because it makes us take responsibility for the external things that aren’t working for us. The truth is, if love/relationships has never gone so well, you aren't attracting the wrong people because the universe is conspiring against you, you’re attracting the wrong people because something in you attracts them. Rather than focusing on finding better mates (external) work on identifying what’s repressed/hurting/etc. in you that could be manifesting itself as romantic partners. I bet you a million dollars that when you address the stuff inside, the stuff on the outside will start to match.
This has another powerful ramification: when you start acting authentically, there is an obvious fear that you will be rejected/thrown under a bus/left for dead in the world, but there’s also the ability to work through these fears like never before. 
The more authentically I act, the more afraid I am at first, but I’m always able to tell myself that if ________ rejects me (the person, the job, the whatever) then the truth is that they just aren’t a match for me – because I’m being myself. 
That’s all I can do, in the long run. Be a person I’m proud of and be true and authentic to that person.
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”    - Coco Chanel